An Attestation on Authenticity
Being authentic means being real.
Example: Close friend of mine shared an experience at her local church. The pastor invited someone on stage for a “taste test”. On one plate was real cheddar cheese, on the other a “cheese whiz” type of product. The person had to taste both and share which they preferred. Not surprising the outcome, the real cheese was the winner.
Bottom line: People like real.
We may not be sure we’re doing it, we could be lying to ourselves unintentionally. Deep down inside, we may not even be aware when we’re pretending to act / do / be a certain way. When we engage in certain activities, if we’re being truly honest to ourselves, we know it. Where did us acting like fake cheese come from? We think we’re supposed to, we’re trying to fit in or make someone happy. We’re acting in a way we think others want, we do things we thing we’re supposed to be doing. We’re trying to create a fake & temporary happiness. We’re seeking approval or happiness through a false self.
What happens when we’re fake? Cutting to the chase, it makes us sick. Mentally, spiritually, emotionally, and eventually physically.
Even though it gives the illusion of fitting in, being in control, acting the right way — it actually does the reverse. It takes us further away from our “essential self”, the true us. It blocks us from getting close to others. It prevents us from being “intimate” (intimate does not means sex, btw).
Authentic living means living honest, connected life. Accepting ourselves “as-is”. Being mindful and aware of our behaviors, and are they an accurate reflection of the kind of person we want to be.